Why It’s OK to Not Have it All Figured Out


For as long as I can remember.. I was ALWAYS the type to plan things out. A part of me felt like that was the way LIFE was supposed to be.

These Sooo CALLED PLANS also would give me a since of CONTROL and security. They made me feel SAFE.

Hmmm Let’s see…

When I was 18, I had my ENTIRE life planned out. It went a little something like this….

By 23, I would meet my future husband and have children. And by 26, I would have a successful career as a therapist. I had it in my mind that I would be living the “American Dream” all before I was 30.

I SWEAR I had everything figured out ya’ll!!! I didn’t stop to realize that I was planning for things without even thinking about what it would cost to PREPARE or maintain those “ACTUAL PLANS.”

Honey…Rushing the timing of your life will cause you to Miss Out on what you #Need for the RIGHT NOW.

Yolanda J

Little Ole #ME

Now… here I am in my thirties, THREE years into my career, & I don’t have a husband or ANY kids. So you want to know what happened??? Reality set in. THAT’S WHAT HAPPENDED!

I was #Blind but NOW I SEE

Ya’ll.. I have experienced so many disappointments, heartbreaks, setbacks, and failures along the way.

That brings me to what I want to talk to you all about today. Now, these obstacles certainly weren’t apart of my plan, but they were all NECESSARY for my “personal growth.” They ALL allowed me to grow as an individual & deepen my relationship with God. And Eventually, I began to change the way I LOOKED & THOUGHT about the things in my life.

Now I’m in a place where I no longer feel GUILTY when I don’t accomplish all of my plans by a certain age because I have grown to understand that everything TRULY happens in its OWN TIMING. God knows the path we’re on & GOD is certainly GREATER than what we could ever imagine, think, and feel.


So you see, if God had given me ALL of those things that I was asking and praying for in my TWENTIES, I’m telling ya’ll.. I would HAVE NOT been fully equipped to be the best wife & mother that I desire to be some day. Sometimes we just have to take a step back and realize that where God has us RIGHT NOW is where we are suppose to BE.


#Strenghten Your FAITH

So for anybody needing a little more encouragement, here are 4 REASONS why it’s OK to not have it all figured OUT:

  1. Because God wants you to TRUST Him every step of the way

Even when it’s hard to ACCEPT things the way they are, God wants to give you the desires of your heart, but only if they are aligned with His will. Just keep trusting and reminding yourself that God knows what’s BEST for YOU and that His plans for you are bigger and better! Soon, everything will make more sense in due time.

2. It’s good for your health both PHYSICALLY and MENTALLY

Life is much EASIER to handle when you’re not forcing, overthinking, and controlling everything. Just let life FLOW the way it is. Besides, the less pressure you put on yourself, the better you will be & the better you will feel about yourself.

Because S T R E S S??? Who has TIME for that!


3. You’ll become more WISE

It’s okay if you still haven’t used that degree that you’ve earned or if things didn’t work out with the guy or chick you’ve once dated. Because through EVERY experience and opportunity, there is always a LESSON to learn. Sometimes things don’t work out as you imagined so that you can continue to evolve and grow as a person. And that’s the is key to living a fulfilling and SUCCESSFUL life.

4. It’s just NOT your time, yet

Trust me, I know it sucks to wait, ESPECIALLY if you have been waiting for some time. But the good news is that better days are definitely ahead for you & your time to shine will eventually come. You just have to BELIEVE #IT before you can SEE #IT. As the saying goes, “Everything happens in its own time and at the right time”. So, while you’re waiting, just make sure that you’re waiting PRODUCTIVELY. Make the most of your waiting season and use it to prepare for the very thing that you’re waiting for.

So, while YOU may NOT have it all figured out now…TRUST me.. you’ll learn to APPRECIATE the lessons you’ve gained along the way. And honestly that sounds like a WIN to me.

May you get everything you deserve in this life and more.


Walking in my PURPOSE on PURPOSE

-Yolanda J 🧡

4 comments on “Why It’s OK to Not Have it All Figured Out”

  1. Anytime things don’t go as planned, I remember Isaiah 55:8-9 and smile big “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.

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