Why I No Longer Force Things

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A Relationship can come in MANY FORMS.

Family, friends, courtship, EVEN situationship. Whatever the case MAY BE, these relationships, that we often cherish the most, become broken and eventually end up in pain, heartache, and unanswered questions.


We are taught that if something
feels broken, we should fix it.


But sometimes trying to fix what is broken can do more harm than good.

Especially if you are changing who you are in the relationship to appease the other person or as WE often SAY, make the SITUATION “BETTER”.


Now I believe in second chances and all but if second chances come with discomfort, added stress, or feeling insecure,

WELL, there are ••Twentytwo•• ways I CAN put this:

It ’s TIME t○ walk away.

🚶🏽‍♀️umm THIS WAY mam… 👉🏽👉🏽👉🏽

MOVE on.

❄❄LET ||IT|| GO○●°•❄❄

RUN🏃🏽‍♀️🙋🏽(Excuse ME)👉🏽👉🏽👉🏽🤦🏽


I used to be the friend who was always trying to take control of fixing broken relationships.

If I noticed something wrong or I sensed something was wrong, I quickly wanted to do whatever I could to make it better.

In other words, “fix it.”

I found myself hanging on to people who no longer served a purpose in my life.

Eventually, I became mentally depleted, simply because I was ALWAYS doing the work, unconsciously putting my happiness last.






ME. 💁🏽

YOU SEE sometimes relationships are seasonal and losing them is not always a loss. They are meant to be broken and left alone so that you can obtain something greater. 

As I’ve grown older, and experienced different relationships, I’ve learned that behaviors in my relationships begin to repeat themselves.

I asked myself this: If I was fixing God into my plan and not fixing my plan into His will, they will most likely NEVER work out. So, it is best to put the pen down and let God do the writing. Because He KNOWS BEST!

I often find myself parting ways more and more from unhealthy relationships or people who no longer serve a purpose in my life. After experiencing many life lessons and spending time to reflect in my relationships, I have learned to NO LONGER force THINGS when something goes WRONG because well…. it’s not my job to do so and, did I mention it’s draining!

Some people are just not worth the time nor energy.
It’s so freeing to fearlessly walk away from broken relationships, letting God take control so that things can unfold naturally. THEN I have an opportunity  to “surround” myself with people who add PURPOSE to my life.

So, whenever you feel the need to FORCE a situation to work in your favor, leave it alone my friend and know that you deserve so much more!

If it detours you from your PURPOSE, you don’t want it.

                   in My Purpose
                                               on Purpose

-Yolanda J🧡

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